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[quote=Anonymous]Before I went on maternity leave, my boss told me it would be okay for me to work remotely with the baby 2 or 3 days a week. Six weeks into my leave, I contacted her to ask what days she wanted me there so I could find child care. A month went by, and she ignored multiple emails and voicemails. I couldn't start looking seriously until I heard from her, because even if I could find child care for just part of the week I had to be able to tell them WHAT part of the week. I specifically started asking her for details before my leave was near to being up because if I couldn't find part-time care I was not going to come back. (Full-time day care costs about 2/3 of my salary, and a nanny would cost more than I make.)

So, today she finally got back to me and said that I could work remotely on Fridays, but just Fridays. I have a month of leave left, unpaid (the rest was paid), and so far I haven't found any day cares that have an opening for the baby. I don't think going back to this job makes sense. We can afford for me to stay home and I have a number of possibly-remunerative projects I can work on. But I feel really awful for taking their money and then not going back. If I'd known what the situation was going to be before I went on leave, I would not have planned to return. If I'd known the situation a month ago, I would have told her I wasn't going to be able to come back. And I know it's not my fault that she took a month to get back to me, but I feel like it would make me a bad person to tell her I'm not going to return.

And yes, I know there are other considerations -- setting a bad example of what pregnant women/new moms are like as employees, a potential black mark if I want to go back to full-time employment in the future, my family's financial stability -- but this is the big thing I'm worrying about now. DH thinks I'm silly for worrying and should just quit and write my book, but something is holding me back and I think it's this worry that I'm being a bad employee/person.[/quote]

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