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[quote=Anonymous]Here's what I would do.  I have three in college.  Two almost there.

[i]We have asked him to not use straight razor for shaving, he’s still using it! [/i]  Not a hill worth dying on.  If he is used to using a straight razor, then why not let him use it?  Just make sure he knows to put it away where younger kids can't get to it.

[i]He also doesn’t respect curfew at all, he would always text us to tell us he’ll be late and if we told him to come home now, he just ignore it![/i]  If he is late, even by two minutes, he doesn't go out at all the next weekend.  I cut my kids ZERO slack in this department.  Curfew is 11:30.  That means that all ten toes better be inside the house by 11:30.  No exceptions to the rule.  If traffic was bad, they should have left earlier.

[i]Also ever since we try to reduce his trip to beach (which is two hours drive away!) or national park, he have become more vague about where he is going and sometime just not tell us.[/i]  I would never allow a 16 year old to drive two hours from home.  Almost 18 year old, maybe.  But not a 16 year old new to driving.

[i]Also we have been catching him doing lot of things we don’t approve of. We found two cigars butt in his 4runner ashtray shortly after he moved here.[/i]  Smoking is stupid.  But I wouldn't allow it to become an issue.  Just tell him he can't smoke in or around the house or in your cars.

[i]Not long ago he got caught street luge and was furious when we confiscate his board and helmet.[/i]  Why did you confiscate the board and helmet?  If it was a punishment, then it's good that he was furious.  My kids are mad at me at least 50% of the time.  Just means I'm doing my job.
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Last night, he was trying to fix something on his camera. He ended up went off to do something else and left it on the table for a while. My husband’s daughter end up look at it and showed us video. There were a few videos of him going scuba diving by himself, body surfing with a older girl, and go inside a structure that hasn’t been done built yet in a city that is a few hours drive away.[/i]  Sounds like a typical teenager to me.

[i]When we confronted him about video, we got in a big argument. We tried to make compromise with him in numerous way, but he just flat out refuse to take any of our offers.[/i]  Why are you trying to negotiate with a teenager?  That doesn't work.  Make the rules.  Give him realistic expectations and clear consequences for violating the rules.  And enforce those rules and consequences every.  single.  time.

Sounds like it's time for you to step up to the plate.  Parenting is hard.[/quote]

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