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[quote=Anonymous]Alex, my 16 years old son just moved in with us a few weeks ago after he has to move out of his grandparent’s place due to their health issue.
Even though I’m overjoyed to have him come and live with us, there are just so many things that I’m very worried about. For one, Alex doesn’t like my husband’s four kids which was the biggest reason he chose to live with his father. On top of that, when Alex was living with his father, things were a big mess which is how Alex ended up living with his grandparents where he was much happier.

Alex is a good kid overall. But… When he lived with his grandparents, his grandfather treated Alex like he’s an adult. The rules was minimum or… pretty much nonexistent. Alex is really responsible and mature for his age. He has always got nearly straight A in school, never got in trouble at school, was a very accomplished wrestler since middle school, and played water polo.  He also used to have a steady part time job since he was fourteen until he moved here. He also would just get up and get things done around here if need to so much that we don’t even really have a chore for him because he do lot. Also we never heard him swearing in any manner.

On other hand… He just doesn’t follow rules well at all. We have asked him to not use straight razor for shaving, he’s still using it! He also doesn’t respect curfew at all, he would always text us to tell us he’ll be late and if we told him to come home now, he just ignore it! Also ever since we try to reduce his trip to beach (which is two hours drive away!) or national park, he have become more vague about where he is going and sometime just not tell us.
Also we have been catching him doing lot of things we don’t approve of. We found two cigars butt in his 4runner ashtray shortly after he moved here.
Not long ago he got caught street luge and was furious when we confiscate his board and helmet. 
Last night, he was trying to fix something on his camera. He ended up went off to do something else and left it on the table for a while. My husband’s daughter end up look at it and showed us video. There were a few videos of him going scuba diving by himself, body surfing with a older girl, and go inside a structure that hasn’t been done built yet in a city that is a few hours drive away.
When we confronted him about video, we got in a big argument. We tried to make compromise with him in numerous way, but he just flat out refuse to take any of our offers.

I’m getting really uncomfortable with everything. I really want to go into his room and confiscate anything he shouldn’t be having, but at the same time I’m just afraid it will make things worse than what it is now. Also I have tried to give him some freedom and be as flexible as possible, but Alex expects to be treated the way he was when he lived with his grandparents. Now other kids are starting to complain that Alex got away with everything. 
I feel like I’m about to lost it and don’t know what to do![/quote]

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