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[quote=Anonymous]I just found out that my wife has been having an (emotional?) affair. If you met us two months ago we'd make you sick to your stomach because we're so lovey dovey. We don't argue, we still act like newlyweds even after nine years and you would swear we were cut from the same cloth. Two months ago we went out to dinner and talked about how we'd never been happier.

Three weeks ago she innocently reconnected with an old friend from high school on Christmas (Facebook), and things quickly spiraled out of control. She's been distant for three weeks and cold, which isn't her. So for the first time I checked her email hoping to find a clue. Maybe she emailed a friend to complain about something I did. Instead I found three weeks of emails between her and this guy who turns out to be an exboyfriend and they consider each other "the one that got away."

Three weeks later, she's sending naked pictures, painfully explicit details of her sexual fantasies of him and they planned to get together for her birthday during a trip that she told me was supposed to be "girls weekend away." The most painful part was Friday's email where she said that she thinks she's ready to leave me and our two year old daughter to be with him three states away.

I confronted her and she didn't hesitate to own up to it. She said she wanted him and not me. I left. Later that night she called begging me to come back. It turns out that he turned her down. He said he had no plans to leave his girlfriend for her. Now she wants me back and swears that it isn't just because he said no. I don't care what the reason is, I don't trust her. I've been through a ton of bad things as a child and teenager, but she was the first and only person I ever trusted completely. She betrayed it and if he hadn't said no, she would've left me and my daughter high and dry.

I've been a stay at home dad for the last three years and so I don't have my own money to leave. I'm not close with my family and I don't have friends close enough to go stay with. I have no options, but being here with her is emotionally challenging. I want to go see a therapist, but with very little money I don't know if I can afford it. Are there any free counseling services available?

I find myself going from calm to extremely angry at the drop of a hat. Today is the first time that I have ever yelled at and cursed at my three year old. She didn't do anything wrong and I tried to catch myself, but I couldn't. I'm just angry and hurt and depressed and I have no one to talk to it with or any way to escape and just be by myself. Yesterday my wife and I had sex even though I knew I shouldn't, and I don't want her thinking everything is okay. I told her after that it wasn't, but we did it anyway and then this morning I woke up completely pissed and angry. I checked her email and she's still trying to "just be friends" with the guy.

I'm trying to stay calm, but I just punched a hole in my wall. I need to talk to someone. What can I do?[/quote]

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