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[quote=Anonymous]The reason this kind of thing “runs in families” isn’t that it is genetic. It is that dysfunctional families produce dysfunctional children who grow up to start dysfunctional families and so on. My grandfather molested all of his daughters but one (big family). Many of his daughters went on to marry men who were similarly inappropriate with women or girls. I was not molested and neither was my father (sons being exempt for this particular perpetration), but I have still had to work hard to break cycles that I can recognize as grooming behavior (e.g., as a kid my dad would regularly tickle us or play rough even if we said to stop). This type of boundary-pushing was normalized in my dad’s family or origin bc of the abuse and even though he never sexually abused me, he did perpetuate some of that grooming behavior which makes sibling relationships more likely to cross inappropriate boundaries.[/quote]
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