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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apologies for using a gendered term, but this expression was an easy short cut.

So how do you gracefully handle people like this? My company is very into a nice, graceful/professionalism culture so an overly snarky retort is NOT an option here. Passive aggressive seems to be acceptable, as long as its very subtle.

This co worker in particular really gets to me because she is quite junior to me in hierarchy (2 levels down), younger (which I know shouldn't matter but sure, I guess I'm a bit touchy) and I typically don't find any of her info useful or helpful. Most of what comes out of her mouth is obvious/pointless information which most people would understand I already know. I think this also gets me because it makes me feel insecure because I know I am not as confident when I present my own ideas, and I sit there wondering, "how does she have the gall to confidently drone on like this?'  But I also know that part is my issue.

When it's harmless/useless info, I tend to let it go, but occasionally she will cross into lecturing about areas where she clearly has little to no knowledge, and where I do have experience. Recently, in one of those moments, I clapped back.

No flames please. But thoughtful advice appreciated. [/quote]

OP are you speaking of group settings, such as in meetings? Or is she speaking to you this way one on one?

If in group setting, I would cut her off mid paragraph and say, "Janet, thank you for these thoughts; I think we're all aware of blah blah blah. In the interest of respecting everyone's time here, I would like to keep this conversation on track and go back to discussing real solutions for this problem."

She won't say another word.[/quote]

It's both. She will do this in meetings, but also one on one. And it drives me NUTS[/quote]

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