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[quote=Anonymous]My husband coach’s my similar age son and it’s been a really difficult dynamic. My son plays another sport with a random coach (not someone we know outside the sport) and DS is a dream for him. But he whines and gets upset with his dad regularly. People don’t volunteer it unless they see you going through the same thing but this dynamic is pretty common. Instruction/correction just feels different coming from a parent and it’s tough when all the other parents are just getting to do the praise/fun stuff and then your dad is 1) focused on other kids and not just you 2) is correcting you. They have worked through it together and it has gotten better. I think it’s especially challenging when your son is one of the better players too because they feel doubly that they should be getting special treatment/praise, but usually the dad/coach is extra careful not to play favorites.

My husband has an assistant coach and whenever possible if they do small groups my son goes with the other coach which helps. Can he have another parent step in for drills and break up the dynamic a little bit? But if it’s not getting better, I would have your husband take some time off coaching. Yes he might be excited about the idea of being a coach but if it’s not working for your family you need to accept it. I know at least one family that just couldn’t make the dynamic work. Maybe you can try again when your DS is older/more mature.

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