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[quote=Anonymous]OP, give a little grace both to him and to yourself. There is no way to know for sure if the issue is that until now you suppressed your own sense of judgement, and now the "honeymoon" has ended and you realize this is not right for you, versus if this is 100% you just going through a stressful moment and things will revert to normal once you get through it. But they only way to find out is to act as if it is the second and let some time pass, while you do everything within your power to say to him, "I've been super stressed and I know it has been affecting my mood, and I'm sorry. I'm trying to work my way through this, I love you and hope you can be patient with me." Then just give it time! And, think about taking care of yourself: what do you need to de-stress? Time alone? Time with friends? Meditation, exercise, therapy to help you work on things? Will the work stress be settling down, or is this a new normal at work?

Either a few months will go by and nothign will have changed and you should then reevaluate the relationship, or a few months will go by and things will be fine and you'll be saying to yourself and to him, "wow, i was a bear to be around for a while, everything was getting on my nerves, my mood was terrible, thank God i've reverted to normal!"

FWIW i go through occasional patches like this with DH. In my case it is usually hormonal! Menopause. I don't know your age but something to consider. I upped the dosage of my estrogen patch and went through several weeks feeling like I was alternating between tears and total rage. I took the dosage back down and, presto, life was normal again. You never know.

I am rooting for your and your BF! The fact that you had two great years and the irritation started when work stress amped up suggests it is external, not him. Two years is long enough that the "honeymoon" was already over. I think the main thing you should do is figure out why your mood has been so bad: hormones? handling work stress badly? And try to address that.

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