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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]12:10 poster again.

Thinking back to when our kids were younger and needed supervision after school, I just remembered one other related provision in our parenting agreement. 
Whenever paid after school childcare was needed on a temporary basis (for example, due to me having to travel for work during my custody week and ex not being able to pick them up directly from school), I would cover the daily fee for the childcare and he would pick them up after his work.

Point being-  protect your ability to put in a full work day + evening commute time. [/quote]

Thank you, that’s helpful. They are in middle school but with no after care and no bus service. The way it works now is that I pick them up and take them to various activities or bring them home. If I were working, that obviously wouldn’t work and I would need an afternoon nanny/driver until my workday ends. I think I need to negotiate the ongoing cost of a nanny/driver into our settlement, particularly since I don’t think he has thought through how he would care for them on school days on his time. He usually wraps up the work day around 6ish but once in a while has the flexibility to finish his day around 2 or 3, so he imagines his schedule as very flexible. But I don’t think he realizes that he would need to sustain that on a daily basis for 5 days at a time. And he certainly hasn’t thought through summer and their morning sports practices or anything like that.

It’s tough because I think I’m going to be negotiating with his magical thinking based on an ideal non-travel day. He doesn’t have a grasp of the reality of daily caregiving.
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