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[quote=Anonymous]I didn't, but I wish I had.

I put a solo trip I was taking on the shared calendar as a courtesy with a month's notice, and ex immediately said, "Oh! I think it's fine, but I mentioned a business trip to you a few months ago, but I didn't put it on the calendar." I searched my texts and saw nothing. Um, yes, it's "fine" for me to plan travel on my stretch without the kid without asking if you forgot to inform me of business travel.  :roll:

He got his dad to cover, which was a mess in and of itself, but my kids are teenagers and can fend for themselves.

I would ask for 30 days notice. You can't be perpetually available to step in for him; you have the right to plan your own life. And you have the right of first refusal, not an obligation to cover for him. And something like, "Best efforts will be made by both parties to swap an equal number of days" so it's not always him giving you his time with the kids while he has 50% on paper. If he wants 50/50, and he wants you to be his backup, then he can take them extra when he's not traveling.

My ex agreed to 57/43 (I have more) but he can't even keep that up. In an average month he gives up 3 nights and only makes up 2.[/quote]

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