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[quote=Anonymous]You won't really know if he has ADHD unless you do a full neuropsych test, which is time-consuming and expensive. It doesn't sound like he's having problems with school or friends (check with his teachers if you haven't already). If no one is observing problems or difficulties, I would hold off on testing. (FWIW, my 13 yo was diagnosed in elementary school. He had various difficulties and the diagnosis helped clarify our next steps).

Motivation is tough. I agree with PPs that this is common. I think you're doing the right things by encouraging him to try out social and non-screen activities. It might help to adjust your expectations (most kids "hate school" and complain about getting up early/homework/whatever), accept that he loves video games (most of them do), and continue nudging him to join clubs and teams. That got easier for us in middle school because students start to settle into their extracurriculars. My kids tried all the things in elementary school but things gelled more for them when they joined the middle school clubs. Making friends in the club helps them move beyond ambivalence.

I would also nudge him to get together with other kids. Encourage him to invite friends over to game, provide good snacks. It's screen time, yes, but with social connection. [/quote]

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