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[quote=Anonymous]A lot of boys are like this, OP. It can be distressing but it isn’t unusual, I don’t think. Your son does have a “hobby” and has motivation for what he loves - TV and video games. Right? You just don’t think those are good hobbies (and I agree, I’m just framing this as your son probably sees things).

Try to separate your desire for him to like school from your need for him to be healthy, responsible, and independent. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that my son hated school. I didnt love school, but I did (and do) love books and learning. My son doesn’t. He loves sports and friends and video games. He is in college now, not a super selective one but a just fine one, and he is a good human being who will find his way. He didn’t have to like school to get there.

Now, your son does need to get exercise, go to school and turn in his homework, do his chores, and participate in family stuff. That all takes time that should reduce his time for TV and gaming. I wouldn’t control what he does with his totally free time, but I’d make sure he is required to do his responsibilities. Here is the thing - you can’t make someone love doing things they don’t love. You can’t make someone motivated to do something they don’t want to do. That is up to them. You’ll have to trust that your kid will find their way, and that someday he’ll use all the tools you’ve made sure he has in his toolkit.[/quote]

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