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[quote=Anonymous]We miscarried (for the third time) last fall and this is the first month we're trying again.  My trusty monitor told me this morning that I'm about to ovulate -- so, once more into the breach we go.  I have two requests for you all:

1) DCUM was so supportive during this last horrific miscarriage -- I don't know what I would have done without you all.  So keep your fingers crossed for us, would you please?

2) Any advice on how to avoid DH feeling like a babymaking service?  At first when we were trying to conceive, it was beautiful and romantic and tender -- "Oh darling, let's make a baby."  Ha.  Remember those days?  Now, after all the miscarriages and tests and tears and monitoring and temping and all that crap -- it's more like, "OK, come on, let's get this thing done."  I hate the feeling that I'm having to basically tell DH to perform.  He, delightful and patient man that he is, has never said a word about it, but I can just sense the difference.  Add to that the fact that I've been sick and had a UTI last week -- so there hasn't been a lot of romance lately. And I don't want him to feel that the only time I want him is when I'm fertile -- that is definitely not the case.  But I'm feeling sheepish about going to him tonight and saying, "Um, yeah, it's time, wanna get it on?"  Ugh.

I know we can't be the only ones who've been through this!  Anyone care to weigh in with advice?  Thanks in advance...
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