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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gently (and also not gently): did you never lie as a teen? Like… ever? Not about homework, plans, where you were, who you were with, what time you got home? Come on.

This isn’t you discovering your child’s “true character.” This is you colliding with adolescence.

Yes, teens lie. A lot. Almost all of them. Not because they’re bad people, but because they’re avoiding consequences, buying autonomy, or panicking in the moment. Their brains are under construction and lying feels faster than explaining.

Where I will challenge you: the repeated “I’m shocked” part. If it’s happening daily, the surprise is on you. Hope is not a strategy. Blind trust at this age just sets you up to feel betrayed over and over.

You don’t need to label them “that kind of person.” You need to shift from believing to verifying.

Stop asking questions you already know the answer to.
Stop reacting like this is a moral crisis every time.

Start responding to patterns, not promises.

Also, this phase does not define who they become. If it did, most of us would be deeply unemployable adults.

You’re not failing. You’re just parenting a teen. Adjust expectations, keep your spine, and save the character analysis for adulthood.[/quote]

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