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[quote=Anonymous]No - I would not do that. I might do it when the oldest is 21 or 22 and the youngest is closer to adulthood, but not now.

What I would do is rethink your guardians generally. Most people (myself included) pick guardians when they're pregnant or when the kids are very little. In that case, you want a loving family who will raise your kids in a similar way to your values, and often that's family who are geographically far.

Well, that might not be the priority anymore for a (newly traumatized) 13 and 16 year old. The priority might be staying nearby with their friends, school, and their existing support system.

My kids are still in elementary school, so we haven't made this change yet, but when the youngest gets a little older, we're thinking of changing our guardians from my SIL and BIL who live far away (but who are excellent parents) to our very close, local, childless family friends. They would do a fantastic job of getting our tweens and teens launched if something were to happen to us, while supporting them and keeping their lives and routines on track (in fact, we'd leave them our house and they'd probably just move in).

Do you have someone like that? What about another family close by? I'd gladly take in my kid's best friend if his parents die when he's a teen. I do think it makes sense to rethink this taking into account geography, but the older sibling is not the answer. [/quote]

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