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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im 38F, married with a 1 and 3 year old. my long term friends and I started our 20s with such hope, potential for a happy life but it seems life has beaten all of us down in one way or another. im now one of the only ones who isn't medicated for depression or anxiety. 
I have difficult days but [b]overall I am fairly happy. when I look at women older than me (my mother, MIL, aunt, various family friends) in their 50s or 60s they are all in bad shape physically and/or mentally. I don't personally know any older women living a life I would be happy with. [/b]
Are there any older women out there living their best life who can give me some hope? If so, what factors do you think have helped you to live your life in a way that you are now happy and healthy in your 50s/60s and beyond? 
Thanks in advance for any insights. [/quote]

I'm not sure many people are responding to this point, but we probably need more information. You don't think you would be happy with the lives they are living, but are they happy? If unhappy, what about? Things may change, values may change, what you're grateful for may change.

Agree that with ages 1 and 3 there will be a lot of difficult days. But I would not have described myself as "fairly happy" like you do. About a decade later, minus a husband who walked out on us which was gut wrenching, I'm actually happier than I was then. I'm older, in worse shape, another decade lost to the sands of time, but have so much more in my control. I am medicated but I'm fine with that; better to be medicated and happy than not.

I realize I do have role models who were divorced/single in their older years, and I do think they had full, joyful lives. I'm hesitantly hoping that the next decade or two will bring similar amounts of freedom and joy even on a path I would not have chosen.[/quote]

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