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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had 3 kids that would do that starting in 3rd grade. One was super toxic and was trying to break up the friend group. Another was really rude to me in my own house. Another has body issues and was trying to project. I stopped having them over. As a single mom, I was the one who did the lion's share of hosting so I just decided it wasn't worth my time.

I talk with DD about friends who are worthy of her time and that sometimes kids are mean and it's ok to distance yourself but it's fine to leave the door open for them if they are treating you how a friend is supposed to treat others. [/quote]

OP here. Yes, I spoke to DD about it this afternoon because some of it was so bad. Basically just letting her know that the reason we let it slide yesterday is because we didn't want to disrupt her party, but that we aren't okay with that behavior and continue to have the same expectations for her as we always have, whether she's in our house or somewhere else. To her credit, she was a good hostess and didn't partake in the snottiness, and on a couple occasions even intervened agains the rudeness.

But yes this has really changed my perception of several of these girls and perhaps the group dynamic. Out of 12 years I'd say it was only 3-4 behaving this way, but that's a lot when the behavior is bad. We'll probably give them all another shot under the theory that birthday parties can be a hard place to evaluate a kid's overall behavior. But I'll definitely be watching closely during future friend dates and when we interact with these kids elsewhere, because if we get this behavior again, I have no intention of inviting these particular girls into my house again.[/quote]

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