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[quote=Anonymous]DD is entering middle school next year. Currently, there's a wide range of what's allowed by each family of her friends in terms of social media/screen time. I feel like we are somewhere in the middle. I'm finding it harder to navigate, because we allow too much for some parents and are simultaneously too strict for others. When friends come over (especially multiple) that's when it gets hardest to navigate.

DD does not have a phone. She does have an iPad, with lots of restrictions. She does not have any form of social media. I will allow her to watch Instagram Reels with me. She can watch YouTube kids. Regular YouTube can be watched only if a parent is in earshot. She has time limits for everything. She can message and FaceTime friends (new contacts have to be approved by me).

Where it gets hard is friends come over and some are not allowed to be exposed to basically any of what I mentioned above, (which is fine, she's happy to play other things more often than not), but then another kid comes over that has much more liberal access and even brings their own iPad (which I don't love). Then I had a parent find out that their kid saw something (age appropriate YouTube kids) on an iPad and flipped out. I wasn't aware they were as strict as they were.

I guess what I'm asking is, how do I navigate this? Both the differing rules per family and then also feeling judgement from some that we do allow modest amounts of screentime. Obviously I didn't grow up in the era of the internet, so I have no idea what I'm doing and just trying to do my best. I can't shield her from all of this till she's 18, my thoughts are modest exposure so she can learn to handle it appropriately and not be a social pariah, but more free reign is many MANY years away.[/quote]

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