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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for your replies. To be clear, the kids and I have discussed blocking her for now, and they are very concerned that their dad will be upset with them for blocking her. I have assured them that I have their backs and it wouldn’t be “wrong”, but I’d love any advice you have on reassuring them.

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It's very odd that they're this fearful, OP. Has your husband been sending mixed messages? My daughter would have said: "BTW I blocked Grandma like a month ago - she was sending me weird messages." I mean, this should not be producing so much agonizing on anyone's part. Or are you projecting your own anxieties on the kids, and they're not actually that fussed? I actually hope it's the latter, otherwise it means your kids are a traumatized over your husband's relationship with his mother - and that's on you guys. You two shouldn't have allowed that to happen.

It's also odd that you're crowdsourcing such a minor issue. Obviously your husband needs to tell his kids that they should block Grandma. Why is everyone walking on eggshells here? Does your husband have an anger management problem?[/quote]
It’s been challenging for DH as this was the first holiday season, and things have escalated. I think he’s realizing, while also struggling, to accept that she is who she is, and things will never be normal. I think they just don’t want to add insult to injury by telling him that they, too, are completely over her. They aren’t scared of him, they just empathize and know it’ll be hard for him to hear. He will do nothing to them, he will accept it, but it will be that slap in the face of acknowledgment. Does that make sense? [/quote]

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