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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend wants to get married. I want to get married in general. My parents went through a bad divorce, so I’m [b]weary[/b]. I want to avoid something like that. I want to go into marriage with eyes wide open. From those of you who are more experienced can you tell me if you think my boyfriend is marriage material? We don’t want kids.

Pros: very sweet, loyal, showers me with attention, hard working, smart, good politics, nice friend group

Cons: diagnosed adhd, messy, stubborn/inflexible, dysfunctional family (but not local)

He’s in low earning profession but I don’t mind that.[/quote]

Weary: feeling tired
wary: feeling cautious

Just an FYI in case it wasn't a typo--it's something people often get wrong.

Now, as to your question: I don't think a ADHD diagnosis is a con.  My CEO DH has ADHD.  It's whether he's treating it/managing it and is aware of the potential impacts on things.  DH is, and has obviously figured out life hacks.  That's the key, IMO.
Only you know how much messy you can tolerate, but the two of you can come to some agreements there.  Are you overly neat and rigid?  You might need to compromise.  (That was us, but after 25 yrs we're both less of how we started)
Stubborn and inflexible, you two need to communicate.  It's the key to marriage.  You also don't mention your flaws here.  What would he say yours are?[/quote]

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