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Reply to "Have you ever buried something for your spouse?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trying to figure out, is this normal? It doesn’t feel normal, but my husband seems to expect it. [/quote] This is what abusive or predatory or double-faced people expect - that you will be their secret keeper. If you don't keep the secret, then the problem becomes YOUR fault because you spoke out loud about it, not the fault of the person who took the abusive action. It is not normal, healthy behavior, which would involve violation and repair. Abusive behavior involves violation and non-repair -- usually ignoring, secret-keeping or outright DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender). OFC, whether you speak about it (i.e. decide NOT to bury it), is a decision you should make depending on your own ethics, position of safety (or lack thereof) and your own interests and goals. [/quote]
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