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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like PP, I only invite wives and kids. This started because my now-ex was antisocial and a jerk, and the other men in the neighborhood only socialize with certain couples or are raging alcoholics. Or both.

I think people are really clannish these days and weird about going to a gathering of a broad group of people. They either want to socialize only with their closest friends from college or their giant extended family, or they want to be home with just their immediate family. It’s tough for people like me who have a small nuclear family and want to fill the house like the olden days.

I think modern invite expectations and evite/paperless post is also a problem. I throw parties with broad invitation lists, so it’s interesting to watch the RSVPs. If too many “randos” RSVP early on, more connected people or people with social capital will all reply no. When 1-2 people who are in key social groups say yes, the rest follow with a yes like sheep. It could be a coincidence but it’s happened too many times. I’ve tried hiding the invite list but then no one says yes.[/quote]

This is all spot on. People don’t want to go to a party where they might not know anyone super well, or where the “right people” aren’t going. I’ve also noticed the “large extended family socializing” and there was a thread about it on here somewhat recently as well. And people are also very self conscious about their imperfect houses as well. [/quote]

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