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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I had our second child earlier this month. Our oldest was born in May and was well past the newborn stage by the time the holidays rolled around. Multiple family members, including DH, seem to think that I’m overly anxious about illness and that some of the positions I’ve taken on holiday gatherings and activities are unnecessary and could be perceived as rude. I think I’m being completely reasonable, that my positions are not that extreme, and that I’m just using basic common sense. Please give me a gut check here! I’m tired of family members hinting that I may have PPA just because I am in favor of exercising some basic precautions that are totally consistent with our pediatrician’s guidance.

Here are a few examples:
-I do not want to take the baby to our older child’s all-school holiday event.

-Our siblings want to visit us and meet the baby around the holidays. I’m fine with that, but I do want to make it clear in advance that, if anyone in our siblings’ families have any symptoms of illness, we will need to reschedule that family’s visit. (Our siblings all have young kids, so it seems almost inevitable that setting this expectation will end up requiring us to reschedule some visits.) I have communicated this expectation to my side of the family. DH is reluctant to communicate it to his side because “it will seem rude.”

-When our siblings visit, I do not want their children (who range in age from toddlers to early elementary) holding the baby or kissing the baby anywhere other than his feet. I haven’t asked DH to communicate this in advance, but I do think it’s a totally reasonable request to make when they arrive. I have no problem with other adults holding the baby, but I would strongly prefer that they not kiss the baby - at least on the face.

To me these all seem like basic, common sense precautions. Am I off base here? And if not, then why are various family members, including members of my own immediate family, acting like I’m being overly anxious and unreasonable?[/quote]

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