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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I told my husband in late October that I wanted to divorce, after thinking about it for years. He has always had anger issues and has been emotionally abusive at times. I was afraid he would explode, but he actually broke down and has been trying to convince me to give him a chance to change. Of course, since the first divorce conversation, he has not lost his temper and we are getting along better than ever before. We are semi-separated at this point. He's finally accepted that. This is what I want and is willing to just get it done already. And now I'm getting scared. Being a single parent (we have one child in elementary school) it's the last thing that I ever wanted. But I've been dreaming for years about not being married to him anymore. I know that if I stay, I will never be able to trust the peace in our home, even if he never ever loses his temper again, and I will never feel love for him. I'll just be sleep walking through the rest of my life.

Is it typical to get cold feet about divorce?[/quote]

What you’re describing? That’s not confusion. That’s clarity finally catching up to fear.

Cold feet before a divorce is about as typical as second-guessing yourself when the exit ramp finally appears after years of white-knuckling the drive. You didn’t imagine the miles behind you just because the road got smooth for a moment.

Here’s the thing: people can behave better when the house is on fire. That doesn’t mean the wiring wasn’t faulty for years. It just means the alarm finally went off.

You’re not scared because you made the wrong decision. You’re scared because you’re standing at the edge of a life you didn’t plan for...even if it’s one you asked for. Freedom can feel a lot like fear when you first touch it.

And that “peace” you’re feeling right now? You already named the truth: you don’t trust it. And trust, real trust, is the foundation. Without it, you’re not living, you’re just managing the quiet, hoping it lasts. That’s not marriage. That’s waiting.

You’re not cold-footed because you stopped wanting out. You’re cold-footed because you’re brave enough to actually walk through the door.

No one dreams of being a single parent. But a lot of people dream of being whole. Of showing their child what it looks like to choose honesty over endurance. To choose a life that’s awake instead of sleepwalking.

You’re not crazy. You’re not heartless. You’re not late.

You’re just early in the next chapter, and yeah, the first page always shakes a little when you turn it.[/quote]

Okay thanks ChatGPT [/quote]

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