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[quote=Anonymous]The "If I had known this was the case, I wouldn't have married you" thread had me thinking. Those of us who claim to have low libidos, mostly women.  Is that really the case or are we just no longer attracted to our spouses? We all know that sexual excitement/passion diminishes with the length of a relationship, the newness wears off and the urge to copulate like rabbits disappears. So is this diminished attraction really to blame for our low libidos? I suppose there is no real way to prove this theory without cheating or performing a clinical experiment, but I wonder how many sex drives will ramp up if the LD spouse is matched with some new attractive hunk she's into.  Will he get her juices flowings again or will she still feel blah about sex? And if he does get her juices flowing, how long will it last before she gets bored again and loses interest just like she did with her husband?

I will use my case as an example. My DH is still attractive but really familiarity has set in so much now that his touch doesn't get me all hot and bothered like it use to. His kisses are familiar and they don't make my knees buckle the way they did during our first years of dating, naturally, I don't jump at the chance to have sex anymore and I rarely initiate. And bless his heart, even when he tries something new, it's still hard to get over that familiar feeling. I'm pretty sure he feels the same about me, my touch and kisses. But I still masturbate and respond to sexual stimuli, even have the ocassional crush and definitely notice attractive men.

Any LD spouse want to chime in? [/quote]

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