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My entire neighborhood has a WhatsApp group, and within the WhatsApp is a Ladies Game Night. A few times a year, various neighborhood women throw a Bunco or board game or quasi-book club party, and literally everyone is invited because it’s all the women in the neighborhood, you can add yourself to the list or add a friend. The list grows as more people join the neighborhood.

In addition to participating in these larger events, I socialize in a smaller group of my immediate neighbor women, who aren’t as comfortable in a large group. I usually make the plans, like inviting them over for dinner or out to a movie or out for Mexican food. They don’t ever go to the larger events, but they always come to these smaller outings. We’ll call this The Small Group for this thread.

The situation:
Because another neighbor of mine who usually hosts the larger group White Elephant party is going through some stuff, she asked for someone else to volunteer to host, and I did. We had a great time. It was a lot of fun. Absolutely everyone was welcome, and knew about it, including The Small Group. None of them showed up, which is fine, but then they basically chastised me in a separate text chain.

“Let us know when WE can get together”; “when are you hosting for just us”; “when are we going out”; “you know we don’t go to those events.” Please note these disappointed texts did not come with any sort of invitation, it was just free-form complaining, directed at me, as if I am The Small Group’s social director, and I let them down.

My question: 
I haven’t yet responded to any of these texts. My big party for the neighborhood was last weekend, and everyone who attended has been sending nice thank you messages in the larger WhatsApp. I don’t feel like I need to explain or apologizing for taking a turn hosting, when for years I have benefitted from other neighborhood ladies hosting these inclusive, fun events. I also don’t really feel motivated to yet again be the one to make plans and invites for The Small Group.

What woud you advise, DCUM?[/quote]

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