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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]East Asian here. Always academics. Always. The social resolves itself, and if it doesn't, it was never going to resolve itself.

Case in point: one of my kids has autism. He's been in various schools - we lived abroad and he attended majority East Asian private international schools - and he was never able to socialize, due to his neurodivergence. My other, younger, children spent most of their education in American public schools, where they are in the ethnic minority, and they have made all kinds of friends from all cultures and origins.

So... academics.

Also. A quarter of people that look like you??? That's such a large minority that you can't really complain, OP! What kind of fragile snowflake are you? My goodness.

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Kind of rude, huh? OP isn’t complaining about the % of their group at the public, they’re worried about being an extreme minority at the private.

Depending on what race OP is, as well as other unpredictable factors (child’s personality, tendency towards popularity) being the extreme minority at the private may or may not be a difficult experience. On average, it’s probably easier for an East Asian kid in a more white environment than say a Black kid, since Asians are more white adjacent, although it also depends. Social class can also influence dynamics too.

Also, you say your public is strong but the academics are better at the privates you’re looking at. I can relate, we are zoned for “strong” public’s but chose a tech free private for the academics. This is a gross generalization but if the academics are that much better at the private and you’re Asian, it might be more worth it. If you’re Black or Latino, I’d prob stay with the bigger same-race cohort in public.

-East Asian child of immigrants who grew up as an extreme minority in the Midwest and didn’t love it, but who thinks my kids would have an easier time being a minority bc their parents aren’t immigrants. Also, there was no K-pop Demon Hunters in the 80s…[/quote]

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