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[quote=Anonymous]You should act as you would if you met the children of a friend or co-worker--polite, wanting to get along, but not overly concerned with whether or not they like you. Do NOT act as if you feel it's really important to you that they like you. You do not want to give kids the idea that they are in the driver's seat, so to speak. Do not bring a gift.

Do not be surprised if they "push your buttons." They may try. ("Our mommy is MUCH prettier than you are.")  Do not rise to the bait. Do NOT try to discipline them if they act up--within limits of course. I am not suggesting that if one were to hit or bite you, you should do nothing. But if they talk with food in their mouths, use a curse word, start running around the restaurant, start whining about something ridiculous, do NOT step in. That is dad's job, not yours. Again, think in terms of going out with friends who have kids. And if dad acts as if he EXPECTS you to take over the disciplinary role, he's looking for a babysitter with benefits and you should run away now.

Do NOT ask any questions about their mom. Do not say anything judgmental about mom. (If they say mom took them to a Sabrina Carpenter concert, don't say OMG!!)

Tell your BF in advance that you don't want HIM to bring up anything serious. This is NOT the time for dad to ask why one of the girls got a bad report card, for example. You want the meal to be a pleasant experience for the kids too.

Good luck.
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