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[quote=jindc]I go in for my baseline monitoring next Friday (18th), and from there we [hopefully] start out first fresh cycle ever.  I've never been pregnant, no BFP but we didn't try very long before going to an RE because my husband was born with undescended testes.

We suffer from pretty bad MFI and the only thing I have against me that I know of is weight - I'm 31, and all my numbers were fine, HSG was fine, and I ovulate on my own with normal cycles that vary in length from 26-31 days, but I've been told that's normal.  I'm very physically active - 5-6 days a week...[I lost 70lbs in about 18 months, but gained about 20 back since husband came back from AFG....been trying to lose it, but decided to just eat as well as I can and stay active in this TTC time to avoid any shocks to my body, if that makes sense]

So as we start this cycle - IVF w/ ICSI at GW, Antagonist protocol - I'm looking for advice so that I don't end up spending my 30s as a human pin cushion.  When I try to talk to DH about this, he says that I'm already dooming this cycle to failure, which I'm not at all - Dr. G gave us a 40% chance with a first cycle, which is actually pretty good (though, there are so many viariables...so who really knows).

At what point do you change clinics?  
I have told my husband that if, after two fresh attempts, GW can't get us to a live birth, I'd like to give another clinic a shot - probably an out of town one because it seems from here that GW is the most experimental of the lot in the DC area. My reasoning is a new clinic brings a new set of eyes on the case, and the reason I'm giving GW 2 chances is because MD IPA = three lifetime cycles, and if an out of town clinic will take MD IPA, I'd be silly to pass that up (though, an out of town clinic might also take AETNA, but I know CCRM doesn't).  DH says this is stupid because everyone has the same information about us and all that, and there's no reason to believe GW can't get us pregnant with ICSI to "cure" his sperm issues.

I feel like he isn't living in the real word - that fertilization and implantation aren't assured with ICSI no matter the clinic, and every clinic does different things - you wouldn't go to the same doctor to cure an actual illness if you continued to not see results, right?

Am I being too freaked out, too early? 
I'm starting to worry that if it doesn't work the first time, I could end up on the slippery slope of a ton of money and all of my 30s being a science experiment.  I'm trying to set expectations and be realistic...and have a game plan for "this is what's next just in case" vs. fly by the seat of my pants and assume everything will work out.  Is my way a bad way to proceed?  [/quote]

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