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[quote=Anonymous]This is not quite what you're asking, but I found that I do best with my mom in a more controlled environment (out for lunch, let's say) or a phone call when I'm out walking. Anytime she called me, when it wasn't a very convenient time, I'd let it go to voicemail. When I was ready to call her (I did talk to her more frequently than once a week, but you can do this once a month or whatever), I'd psych myself up and steel myself not to be baited, and I'd maintain an even keel. If the topic went south, I'd say I need to go and hang up. With practice, these conversations went better. If there is a way you can practice positive reinforcement with her, and "reward" good behavior, it might get slightly better. Or not. I also found redirecting to be helpful, just like you would with a child who wants a cookie. You laugh and change the subject. This is why it is essential you only call when you have the energy to manage the conversation. [/quote]
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