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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]You don't tell the other mom how to handle it.[/b] Even though I agree with you and think she's making a big mistake in trying to micromanage this situation for her DD.

The *most* I might do is maybe commiserate that the social stuff in elementary can be challenging (which is true! recess and who plays with who can be a whole drama and it's hard when your kid is struggling) but then note things you think have helped your kid. Like if I were in this situation, I'd say "you know, going to aftercare has been great for DD because it gives her a chance to hang out with other kids in a different setting which I think makes recess easier." Or "when DD is having challenges at school, we try to schedule playdates with some of her soccer friends from other schools so it doesn't feel as intense -- it seems to help put things in perspective."

It sounds like this mom is not doing a good job of helping her DD develop social skills to navigate challenging or even just non-ideal social situations, and is instead trying to engineer social situations so that her daughter doesn't need social skills. You and I know that's not going to work out great, but you can't just say that. So I might try to empathize but then gently steer the other mom towards things she could do that would help her child with resilience and making friends in different settings.[/quote]

This. That's all you need to know. This isn't your battle to fight and you stand to only get involved in drama that isn't yours.[/quote]

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