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[quote]Also, we allowed them to "mope around and be moody about the deferral" but only for 24-36 hours.  We helped them focus on all their other choices and which RD applications now needed to be completed/submitted.  It's not healthy to spend weeks being depressed about rejection at a school with single digit acceptance rates (or maybe 12-15% acceptance rates for ED after you consider rich alumni and athletes).[/quote]  But what helped the most was having prepared them for reality that reaches mean 85-95%+ of highly qualified applicants get rejected, so focus on what you control, and have great targets and safeties so you will still be happy[/quote]

I still remember my dad coming to talk to me while I was heartbroken in my room when he got home from work the day I was rejected from my top choice college. He said something sympathetic, and then something like, "Take a couple of days to feel as sad as you do about this, and then we'll start looking at your other options." I'm quite sure that my mom sent him to talk to me and he was not usually one to acknowledge emotions, but he somehow struck just the right tone with this message. [/quote]

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