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[quote=Anonymous]Does anyone have older children who were burnt out and quit and then later regretted it?

My kiddo has been playing since they were four and now headed to high school after this season. Has had top training in and out of club and has been very focused on training. Made the jump to travel at U10. Moved to a highly competitive club. Was there for a few years. Very much interested in the collegiate pathway. Training all over the country, all the things. Was basically s*%t all over at that club, but we endured because it was the "best" path. Over that time, interest in skill building continued, but enthusiasm and enjoyment tanked. Kiddo at this point has been training 6 days a week for 4-5 years because that's what they wanted to do, not because of parental pushing. The kind of kid who comes home and trains after practice because they are just that motivated. After playing up a year on U14, decides they no longer care about playing in college and they want to have somewhat of a normal life. Okay cool. They don't want rec because it's boring. They do want to try out for high school teams so wanted to stick with travel to maintain skills, but didn't care about ECNL anymore. We find less competitive clubs to try out. Get three offers. Pick one. Kiddo is once again in a very toxic coaching environment. This would be the 4th year in a row that is the case. Kiddo wants to quit the sport entirely. Not finish the season. Not play in high school. Not play rec. Not play intermurals. Not do private group coaching until high school tryouts. Nothing, nada ever again.

As a parent, I'm somewhat conflicted. I am supporting what kiddo wants. They will be leaving mid year. The toxic club environment is pretty much the same at every club they have played for or trained with. I care more about my child's mental health and the fact that they are just not enjoying it anymore than I do about anything else. I'm just worried that after they don't play this winter or spring after leaving mid year, they may change their mind about trying out in high school. At that point there would be nearly a year skill gap and odds of making the team are slim. As much as my wallet will be thanking me and we definitely have had no life outside of soccer for so many years, it'll be a huge shift for our family, I hate to see them quit something they are really good at due to some Ahole coaches.

Has anyone's child been in a similar situation and later regretted quitting completely?[/quote]

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