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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else? Not sure if this is a vent or what.

I’m expected or at least need to earn a living and contribute to maintain our lifestyle

But all the planning is on me. He hasn’t volunteered to do anything for Christmas. He’s never going to volunteer. I can assign him something and he will do it but he automatically assumes I will handle it all. I’m supposed to be fortunate he will contribute if asked. We both have jobs that are just as demanding.

I’m frustrated and there is not a solution. Regret getting married and signing up for this. I’ve talked to him and nothing will change. I vacillate between thinking he’s incompetent and he is taking advantage of me.

When can I be free of this? Never?

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Sorry you are going through this. You need to assume that everyone is doing the best they can. Can you guys downsize your lifestyle and hire a house manager/personal assistant who can take care of so.e of these things?

It could be worse. I know you don't want to hear it, but it really could be. You could have married a bum with no job and no ability to follow your instructions. You could have married a man with a big job like your DH's but who would refuse to follow your instructions. It's not ideal but it could have been worse.

Now accept that he is not going to change. What can you do to make things better for you?

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