Reply to Stepping on toes

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Stepping on toes"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I need to vent… my ex husband introduced his new gf to the kids for the first time yesterday. Their first activity together was getting the kids’ ears pierced. I am ok with the piercing, although it would have been nice to have a heads up, or be offered the chance to be present or take them myself.

Ex has a history of doing this. A previous gf took my daughter shopping for her first bra, the next gf inserted herself into a stepmom role for several years before kicking ex and my kids out of her house one night and never speaking to them again. Now he has this new gf he introduced to them weeks before Christmas… no doubt he intends to have her there at Christmas (we alternate holidays and he has the kids for Christmas this year).

He knows my feelings on missing out on “milestones” with the kids (like the bra shopping). Why should another woman get to do these things with my kids when she is new in their life and most likely not permanent? I don’t understand why a woman who has her own kids wouldn’t recognize that perhaps ear piercing was an activity that a mother would like to be involved in. As a mother l, I feel like she would know this. My ex is oblivious and/or enjoys trying to get a reaction out of me.

I don’t have control over any of this, I’m really just venting. I feel like I need to give ex a list of things I would like to be present for…. teaching them to drive,  prom dress shopping, etc. Missing out on things I expected to do as a family is one of the hardest aspects of divorce.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics