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[b]DH is that father figure that DD needs, and he does a great job being a dad to DD[/b] and our four-year-old DD. They have shared a ton of wonderful moments, but her behavior has been tough for him to cope with. I make a point to tell him that he isn’t alone and that it has also been difficult with me. I make sure to tell him that we both need to remember not to take her actions personally and that we are doing our best to navigate her behavior, hoping she will eventually outgrow it. However, [b]he’s not very hopeful and tends to have a very low tolerance for disrespect[/b], so it is hard. I’m looking for advice, mainly on how to strengthen our marriage and not let this affect it and also how to ensure DH/DD have a close relationship despite all of this going forward.[/quote]

Is he though? It sounds like you want him to be a good father figure but actually he isn't.

So it was just you and DD, she's always struggled to cope and is basically abandoned by her bio father. Then you put her through remarriage and a new baby, dividing your attention across two other people and making her live with someone who is not temperamentally a good fit for her needs. Surprise, it's going badly. Take some responsibility for your choices here.

Men who need a lot of "respect" are often just insecure and rigid. They don't have the social skills to earn respect or understand why the kid is behaving badly. so they try to demand "respect", but that's not how respect truly works.

I would reduce your expectations at home to lower the conflict. At 13, she does not need to do chores and homework without being told. It's fine for her to be told. Designate certain blocks of time each week for this and it will become routine. [/quote]

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