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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think your role as parent in this moment is encouragement and confidence.

Her: I just don't know what to do, it's so stressful? What should I do??

You: You are a smart, capable young women with a ton of skills and options. It's okay to flounder a bit - most adults I know didn't know exactly where they'd end up when they were in college, too! I have total faith that you'll figure it out.

The only place I'd dive in is if she's asking for specifics that aren't making a decision for her, where you have some specific knowledge or can point her to someone who does. Like if she's talking about finance, it's reasonable to say "you know, my friend Jerry works in finance - would you be interested in talking to him? I could connect you two" or if she's asking about international relations, you can say "it's worth investigating recent changes in that industry - the current administration really cut a lot of those jobs and money."

But don't put your finger on the scale. Firm information that you have and she may not, that's it. [/quote]

I don't have any info about finance whatsoever, and no contacts. Same with dh, we are in different fields. So I feel completely useless when she asks, but she asks what we think all the time because she has so many doubts. We've recommended she speak to her advisor more. It's a lot easier with ds who has had a field in mind since high school and has stuck to it because he is passionate about it, so requires no guidance and doesn't ask for it either.[/quote]

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