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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who’s paying?[/quote]

Him. He makes almost 40x what I do.[/quote]

Oh gosh, I just saw this, I'm the PP. Then you need to remember that "we" aren't buying anything. HE is buying a place. And you can hang out there a lot. Maybe he'll even give you a key. But it's HIS house, not "our" house. Be CRYSTAL clear about that. Do not put forward one penny of money and do not make decisions about it. [/quote]

This. Do not contribute one cent towards it. He is more or less buying a vacation home for himself.

I would also have a long discussion and very strong boundaries around how often you will stay there. He is probably expecting you will spend every day without your kids there. From my experience, packing up your stuff and going to another house 2-3 times a week is exhausting and eventually you will want space and evenings alone at your own home. Plus, I’m guessing your usually weekly cleaning is done when your kids are gone - you need to factor in that you still need time at your house for regular maintenance.

I went through something similar when my BF purchased “us” a $100k vehicle. He refers to it as “ours” and we use it for weekend travel, but I do not contribute anything to it and view it as 100% his. [/quote]

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