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[quote=Anonymous]Hello, DCUM.

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and he's wonderful. We each have two kids between the ages of 5-10 and we both coparent 50/50 with our exes. Right now we only have every other weekend aligned where we are kid free together, but in the new year we will be aligning our weekdays as well. Week A we'll have 2 days without kids then week B we'll have 5 days without kids, repeat. We haven't met each others kids yet because we've been focused on laying a strong foundation and both of our exes are flailing around to different extents. So, our thought process has been there's a reasonable chance one or both of our exes will impose some more transitions on the kids and we don't want to add to that for any of them.

We currently live in different suburbs about 45 mins apart. Long term, we have a mutual understanding that neither of us will force a blend, have our kids change school districts, or move them further from their other parents. We suspect our exes will both eventually blend with someone and each want to remain a non-complicated steady force for our kids.

He approached me last week and told me that he'd like to buy us a city place as a home base for us for when we don't have the kids. His thought process is that if we are going to live half our lives without our kids (our exes both caused the divorces) then we should at least make our no kid time the best we can. He wants to get a place we can make our own and walk to coffee shops, restaurants, museums, theaters, cook together, walk the dogs, work from home or have very fast commutes (currently we each commute in a few days per week), be closer to my family (my siblings and mom are all in the city). We currently go to the city for pretty much all our date nights now.

What do you all think about this? Can this be sustainable long term? I am struggling with "allowing" myself to feel happy or build something intentionally during my kid free time since all I ever wanted in life was to be a mom. I never in a million years imagined I'd get divorced or be dating again. FWIW I'm 36 and he's 38.[/quote]

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