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[quote=Anonymous]I’m in the same struggle but still in the divorce process. I think it’s made worse because most of the resources I’ve found for women in this situation are from the perspective of a woman who has initiated the divorce, and are very congratulatory and focused on celebrating her choice to empower herself. It is much more unusual for a DH to initiate divorce, so it is no surprise that the feelings that come from the other side would be more lonely, isolating, long-lasting, or shameful. I feel that me not initiating the divorce gave DH a huge sense of power and control that he enjoys wielding, and you might be in a similar situation, OP.

I have really bad days and days when I don’t even think of it, but I am trying to make peace with the fact that his decision is a reflection of him and his character and is not a reflection of me.

It is very difficult to not react or take his bait. I only communicate in writing and am working on routines to manage my physical response to things like when he files motions, sends nasty emails, or says awful things to our kids.[/quote]

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