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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Single (35/F). I’ve noticed many of the men I meet aren’t interested in being in a faithful/committed relationship.

Of course, I’m looking for marriage with the right person and before we can be monogamous of course it starts with baseline of being in a relationship.

what am I missing? Do some men just not want to commit? Or what does it take for single men to settle down? I hate to think all men cheat. [/quote]

Let’s take a little stroll down Truth Lane for a moment.

Look, darling, dating these days can feel like you’re shopping at a flea market at closing time: lots of noise, lots of flash, lots of folks selling you something they don’t intend to stand behind once you walk away with it. And when you’re out here trying to build something steady, something sacred, something with Sunday-morning coffee and shared car insurance energy…well, it can feel like the world’s dealing you jokers instead of kings.

But here’s the thing: you’re not missing some secret manual. You’re not broken. You’re not naïve. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just playing in a field where not everyone showed up to harvest.

Some men? Yeah, they’re out here treating life like an all-you-can-eat buffet — little taste of this, little taste of that, commitment hovering somewhere between “maybe later” and “never heard of her.” But that ain’t all men. Not by a long shot.

A man commits when his values line up with his timing and he looks at someone and thinks, “If I play this one casual, I’m gonna regret it for the rest of my days.” That’s not fear. That’s clarity. That’s gravity pulling him toward someone worth building a life with.

You don’t need to convince someone to be faithful. You don’t need to audition for loyalty. Commitment is not a coupon you have to beg someone to redeem. The right man, the kind who’s done the work, who knows what he wants, who’s tired of roller coasters and ready for a good long road trip, he’ll step into that with both feet.

So no, not all men cheat. But plenty of boys pretend to be men because they learned how to grow a beard before they learned how to grow up.

Hold your standard. Keep your heart open but your eyes clear. You’re not searching for the many, just the one. And he’s out there, probably looking around wondering where you are.[/quote]

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