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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In all of my relationships, we built up to seeing each other every day over time, as we became more serious. It certainly didn’t START with every day, and decrease over time. That being said, there are lots of people who would be fine with 1-2x a week in the midst of busy lives. But your partner may not be one of them.

Your preference is very normal a few months in, but it’s tricky because it sounds like you got serious very quickly, and your partner may experience any decrease in time spent together as you cooling off or withdrawing.

Are you dating for marriage? Or just companionship? I wonder if you and your partner want different things, now that the “honeymoon” stage is receding.

I think emotional intimacy would be hard to build when you’re only communicating “occasionally.” To me, that reflects a less serious relationship, and less of a partnership.

Is this your norm in relationships, historically? For me personally, in all of my serious relationships, our lives just naturally intertwined.

Wanting to shoo your partner out the door does not sound like a good dynamic, but it doesn’t sound like either of you are in the wrong; you just have different needs. Although  wanting some personal space is totally valid, and you can communicate about that in a respectful way.

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OP. No, this isn’t the norm for my relationships, but it’s been years since I’ve dated. For context, I’m divorced with kids, and I’ve gotten used to a pretty balanced life with work, family, hobbies, friends, etc. I’ve also recently started a side hustle that takes 10-20 hours a week of my time. He’s my first real relationship since getting divorced.

He’s never married, no kids. So it makes sense he wants more time together, as he’s dating for marriage. I could go either way - I can see myself getting married, but also would be completely fine never getting married.

I guess I’m just used to being very independent.

I also feel like when I see him so much, I don’t have much to talk about. I want some space so we can both have experiences to talk about beyond just “Joe did this thing at work today”. [/quote]

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