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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They both stayed for companionship. It met their needs at the time. Not everyone is driven by a desire for marriage in every relationship. Relationships aren’t rom coms or fairy tales. They are complex interactions and dynamics and people get u to them and stay in them for many reasons. If it was what they both wanted, they were honest about it and it met their needs at the time, I don’t know why you would have an issue. The fact he wasn’t thinking about marriage over a decade ago doesn’t mean that isn’t something he wants now at this stage in life. I find it stranger when people only date for marriage, a lot of people get married far too young due to that mentality. Nothing wrong with giving yourself a bit of time to know what you want and who you want and live as an independent adult before seeking a relationship for the purpose of marriage. [/quote]

They weren't super young when they got together and they were both divorced.  I feel that she was hoping for a future with him and had communicated this to him, but he declined, yet they stayed a few years after the conversation.  I feel that she held on to hope for many years since they talked about a future together in the very beginning of their relationship.  And then he decided that they weren't compatible after a few years together.  I don't have an issue with this, but I also do not want to overlook any red flags.  This is my first relationship post divorce (6 years).  I dated only casually and I honestly had no intent to get remarried until I met him.  [/quote]

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