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[quote=Anonymous]OMG, get your act together!

1. Don't give up on finding someone outside of apps. If you strike up a conversation with a nice man, ask for his number. Don't be shy. You don't have the time to be shy.

2. If you could stand to lose 10lbs, you are going to look terrible in skin-covering clothes, particularly turtlenecks. In the winter I wear tissue-thin, skin-hugging turtlenecks from J Crew and they show off my slim torso. But a chunky one is going to do the opposite! You need look at your body in the mirror and analyze which points you want to highlight and which you should hide. A little cleavage is good. Maybe you need a better quality bra to have a nice cleavage. For full body shots, you need harmonious proportions. Adjust the visual line that defines your waist if you think your torso is too long and makes your legs look shorter, for example (I do that).

3. You need to treat this like a JOB. Find the right clothes. Practice smiling and adjusting your face. Do your research on how to angle your body and face for a photo and from which location to hold the camera. Men aren't going to ask how the sausage is made. They just want to see the sausage, and eat the sausage.

4. There's a difference between sexy and approachable. They attract a different sort of male. If you want a long-term relationship and marriage, you might want to shy away from the thirst trap and focus on looking approachable, girl-next-door cute. Which does not mean your present dowdiness!!! It still means you need to show skin and curves and smile, but not in a pornographic way. A photo that tells a possibly not handsome, but pleasant, reliable and financially stable middle-aged man (your target audience) that this is a person they might get. You can't be out of reach, but you need to be aspirational.

Seriously. Modern society has erased the pursuit of a husband as a weighty endeavor requiring skills and preparation, but once upon a time, it was that sort of job! Get with the program.[/quote]

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