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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It may be time to reframe at age 30. I have noticed that often childfree adults continue to see themselves in the role of "child" in the world and when they talk about their family, they mean their family of origin. It kind of comes off as arrested development. When you don't go through the shift that occurs when you start your own family, you don't experience the changes it brings to your relationship with your parents and siblings. I think this is a huge consequence of people choosing to not get married/have children.

People should live how they want and no one needs to get married or have kids, but it is interesting to observe as demographics keep changing. It seems to me that it perpetuates an infantilized outlook on life, where the aging parents are still the caretakers and sources of emotional strength for  their adult children. Once you get married, your partner becomes that emotional strength source (best case scenario) and when you have your own kids, you sort of shift into a place where you parent the kids while you gradually transition into a role of taking care of your parents (I don't mean changing diapers, more like when you go to their house, you act more like a peer or like you are the one in charge (when it comes to your own kids) and then it goes from there).

The way my single 30something colleagues relate to their parents is baffling to me. Maybe it's just me and I am a stodgy GenXer. [/quote]
I’m not childfree. I have a boyfriend I would like to marry and we want kids. [/quote]

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