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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's noticing what's cool and what's not. Chess and theater are definitely not cool and have stereotypes. If he doesn't want to do them, don't push him. [/quote]

How big is the school that he is at? Are there enough kids that there is a theatre crowd and a sporty crowd and a STEM crowd? A school that is too small to allow kids to find their group and be comfortable with that group could be the problem. You said he had a fall sport, is getting pressure from teammates to drop non-sporty things? I say this as someone who was a varsity athlete and in band and in choir and never really settled into one group or the other. I was fine with having friends in both groups but not being seen as a "member" of either group but I know some kids struggled with that.

If he stops doing something that he enjoys because he thinks that they are nerdy or geeky or uncool, then he is going to be miserable. The conversation should be about doing what you enjoy, find friends who support your, and don't stop doing something that you enjoy because you are worried about people thinking you are not cool.

If he has something new that he is interested in and wants to explore, then support that exploration. But you need to help him be confident with who he is and what he enjoys.

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