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[quote=Anonymous]To me there is a bit of a difference between self centered and selfish.

It is very normal and developmentally appropriate for children and teens to be self centered. Their worlds are relatively small, so their own role in them is outsized. This shows more in just not thinking through larger ramifications of their actions-from something as simple as a toddler thinking “I want 2 cupcakes” without connecting it to “if I take 2 cupcakes someone else won’t get one” to the group of teens taking up the sidewalk and being oblivious to people behind them who want to get past. This is something people get better at, especially with guidance and correction.

Selfishness is more of a personality trait. You know the impact, you just don’t necessarily care or you think you deserve the outcome more than the other impacted people. I think this is much harder for people to change. Sometimes they will change-maybe because of  a life experience, or because they realize their selfishness is hurting their relationships, or through some soul searching. But I think this is much harder. [/quote]

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