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[quote=Anonymous]Reframe this for yourself. For her "home" means her old life. She wants to go back to the normalcy she once knew. She's angry her life has changed. You cannot make this better by moving her.

You problem solve how to help her bloom a wee bit where she is planted. Work with the team. What has helped other residents? Is she getting outside every day and getting movement? Is there an activity she might enjoy at the AL? Ask about medication that might help if you all you see is a little decrease in anger since going off one med. The issue with meds often becomes-does it increase fall risk and is it worth the risk? Would playing her favorite music help when you visit or bringing a favorite food or showing her old photos? Would she enjoy sharing old family stories while you record her so it can be passed down the family branches?

You have to accept you cannot fix this and nothing will make her feel completely home even a move back home. All you can try to do is strategize to improve her experience and know even if something helps for a week or a month, it may all fall apart again as she ages. [/quote]

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