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[quote=Anonymous]Take what? What are you giving that they are failing to reciprocate?

I have realized as an adult that some people offer to do things believing it is *implied* that I will reciprocate. I didn't know this! In some cases I agree (I think playdates and carpooling should be reciprocated unless there is a reason why it can't be or why one family wants to host every time). In other cases, people will do things for me that I don't want them to do and then expect me to get them back and... no. That's you trying to manipulate me into doing things for you.

Like I had parent friends who used to bring toys and books they didn't want anymore over to our house. I also didn't want them -- my kids aren't younger than there's and we have tons of stuff already. But then later they started asking to "borrow" some of our kid stuff and I realized they thought it was a reciprocal arrangement. I was very annoyed. Why would you assume that? And it's manipulative to give people what appears to be a gift but is really an obligation. Just no.[/quote]

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