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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I overreact to DH sometimes. For me, it’s overwhelm. I am completely overwhelmed by my life (therapists and doctors have confirmed that those feelings are valid.) I notice that you said DH makes seven figures. People don’t get paid big money to do easy jobs. One possible reason for his overreaction could be that his cup is near full most of the time, and it only takes a little to put him over.

I am wondering when you are bringing these things up to DH? Could you have a family meeting on Sunday nights and designate that as the time to discuss “strategize for the week ahead.” I wonder if he’s prepared to discuss these small topics, if they would be less threatening, preventing the overwhelm. I agree that you might want to run your delivery by a close friend and get feedback.

Here a potential script:

DH, I noticed that you had a really big reaction to my comment earlier. I love you, and I don’t want you to feel so overwhelmed. I also don’t want to model that dynamic for any of our children. I was wondering if there was a better time to communicate the normal parenting tasks. Would Sunday nights feel better to you? We could grab a cup of tea, stick the kids in front of the TV for twenty minutes, and strategize for the week.

If he can’t handle feedback at a neutral time, then that’s a bigger problem. I wouldn’t have more children with him until you get this dynamic smoothed out. He probably didn’t have time for therapy, but he probably needs it. [/quote]

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